As Friendship as a Tree
Odd, isn’t it? I mean, when was a tree ever been equated to friendship? A tree is to forest as friendship is to human and no one is authorized to change that, not even the Creator because, as the Good Book states, after creation He saw all His work as Good so He doesn’t have to alter anything does He?
Enough with the yapping, I’m just being figurative… so how, you ask? Well, probably, you’ve heard or read whatever I’m going to write about this or not, but I’ll jot it down anyway…
Let’s start from the stem. This is a single entity and so I deem it fit to represent you (or\and me, of course), thus leaving the other elements making up a tree to represent the type of friends we encounter in our life course.
The autumn zephyr is blowing. Its late afternoon and you’ve just arrived home from that part-time job. You’re dead tired but the compound is not that appealing to the eye so you head to your store and pick your rake. Why? The leaves, the dry leaves are all over the yard!
Leaves don’t stay long attached on a tree, even the evergreen tree always has let go of some leaves at some point. Leaves are seasonal, and so are some friendships.
Some friends are there for a while.
Take an example of your childhood friends. Are you still together? I doubt it’s a rare friendship; the childhood one. In this category, we can include the pals from back in elementary school. Do you even remember their names? May be faces and that funny or awkward stint they did back then. Like there is this time we skipped school and went swimming in Lake Mpararo, near the Eldoret railway station. We were in class six or five and so these huge standard eight boys plus the head boy came after us and on our quest to escape being caught and face the headmaster one boy vamoosed without any clothes on, nude to the bone; in his crisp cleaned birth suit. Stories like this fly faster than voyager one and by the following day, that was the hot story……
Your high school and tertiary institutions pals are in the past by now or you just keep in touch through social networks which makes you just acquaintances. Somehow these pals tend to stick longer because of job hunting. You need to be more and well connected to find jobs as the job people always say. But as established, even the evergreen trees let go of their leaves.
Some of the Pals from high school and tertiary institutions fall in this branch (all pun intended). You’ve probably heard of high school sweethearts getting married and sure that must have required they keep in touch often to keep the love burning, don’t you think? And, some people always advice that one should marry their friends…
Some, after committing fornication and a stitch in time saving the nine-month baggage, while still in school, especially tertiary institutions, are forced to be together and take care of a life. Though, I don’t know if such is a friendship or just an inconvenience. Inconvenient friendship.
Some trees often let go of their branches when they feel like, for example, the eucalyptus. So also some of these friendships break at some point. Inconvenient friendship is one of them.
Trees need roots to thrive. There those friends in our lives who are always there for us, no matter what! They come in packages; marriage mates, BFFs (either male or female), parents… these friends bring something to a friendship and since a friendship is a two-way traffic, we too enjoy adding as much to that friendship.
Age, family background, material possessions and so forth aren’t always a bother or don’t determine the course of these friendships. Endearing virtues and plausible qualities (love, loyalty, trustworthiness, and respect e.t.c) are what hold the friendships. Forasmuch as these friendships are tight, they aren’t immune to quakes and shakes. There’s nothing like problem free friendships but that doesn’t rob the friends their deserved bliss in their friendship.
Trees have varied lengths of roots; some deeper in the soil than others, for various reasons like finding the nutrients needed for the growth and upkeep of the tree. These close friends too offer their help, or we offer the help to them, in varied lengths; according to our capabilities and thus the Swahili saying; kutoa ni moyo usambe ni utajiri.
There are external elements that may threaten the well being of a tree; tornadoes, soil erosion, wanton destruction from human to name a few. Friendships too may be faced with the same. So the friends need to work hard on their friendship lest these eternal element (rumors from the envious characters etc) savage their bond of trust and friendship.
The best, strong and dependable friendships require effort, time and other few factors to thrive but the rewards are worth all those requirements. A few years ago, trees older than the human race on earth (created or planted before Adam and Eve) and some, close to and over two thousand years old (planted long before and during Jesus’ stay on earth) were discovered and we can confidently conclude that their roots contributed to their enduring that long.
That’s it… or almost. Always cherish your beloved friends and they, in turn, will reciprocate in kind. So, what kind of a friend are you?